After participating as a basic member of Leanness Lifestyle for two years and taking part in three of Dave's bootcamps; in September I decided to join his Leanness Lifestyle Elite Membership. Part of the membership is completing weekly assignments. I speak with Dave each week. Most conversations are a bit over an hour, some have been as long as 2 1/2 hours, last night was a quick check in of 30 minutes.
LL Elite isn't all nutrition. It's delving into oneself and finding out what is there. He is more a life coach, in Elite, than just a nutrition coach. My assignment for the past month or so has been reading Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway; Dynamic techniques for turning fear, indecision, and anger into power, action and love by Susan Jeffers, Ph. D
I have never been a reader of motivational books. I read every day, currently I am reading Beginning Italian and The Pillars of The Earth. I am enjoying both very much.
I was a bit reluctant to read this Feel The Fear title, just because it is something that I am unfamiliar with.
I was amazed by the book.
Dave asked me to read a few chapters prior to each conversation, highlighting whatever sparked an interest in me or whatever may 'hit a nerve'. I was highlighting quite a bit in this book. I was surprised at how many topics seemed to ring true for me, right now, where I am in life. Maybe if I read the book a year ago, other topics would have rang true as well.
For years I was afraid to step out of my comfort zone. Running has pushed me out of my comfort zone, it continues to do so, each and every day.
I first began to run when I read that Oprah was running. I read her book "Make the Connection" and was hooked. I was afraid to run in public. My boobs were a 36D and I didn't know how to keep them still. Walla. I learned I could wear 3 sports bras and they would stay in place. I didn't know about the Frog Bra or Title Nine Sports. I was afraid I looked stupid while running, so would run early in the morning, when nobody in my neighborhood could see me.
I was afraid to enter my first race. I didn't look like a runner, I didn't know anything about races. I was scared to death. I remember my first 8K. I looked at the runner bodies, the people who were in the Big Lake Run Club and was oh so intimidated. Yikes.
It took me over an hour to run that first 8K, but I did it! I was the last runner, but I did it! The fear was a bit removed.
And so it goes..each and every day I try to go a bit out of my comfort zone.
The author of this book begins by asking What is it for you? Fear of speaking, asserting yourself, making decisions, intimacy, changing jobs, being alone, aging, losing a loved one, ending a relationship?
I underlined many.
The author discusses moving from a place of pain, paralysis and depression (feelings that often accompany fear) to one of power, energy and excitement.
She discusses how to let go of negative programming, how to raise your level of self-esteem, how to become more assertive, how to make your dreams a reality, how to see yourself as having purpose and meaning.
She also states that the amount of improvement you experience will depend on how much you are willing to actively participate. Also, the more you get involved, the more fun you will have.
Through her activities, I've learned that pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
One simple activity: My nutrition. I was scared to death at Thanksgiving to make the Pecan Pies, the Lefse, the Christmas Cookies, etc. I worked through those fears, and realized that working through them was not as scary as I thought.
Now, some of you are probably laughing. WHAT? Afraid of baking, afraid of pie? Come on, girl! Well, yeah. I was. I'm afraid of much bigger things, fears that I am not yet comfortable enough to write about here, but this is what was happening on that day and is simple to discuss.
I found that the outcome was not as fearful as I had anticipated. I wrote earlier about how I didn't fall into the sugar coma and how I resisted. I was successful.
I learned how important it is to surround yourself with people whom you look up to. Don't hang out with people you don't want to be like. For years I hung out with the drinkers, the drug doers. That was me. I was negative, depressed, I was not happy. I've changed. I now surround myself with positive people; people I would like to emulate.
The final chapter is titled "Filling the Inner Void". The author speaks of a "Higher Self", a Subconscious Mind and the Universal Energy. This was all new to me. She speaks of affirmations, how when you stay centered there is nothing to fear, how to tap into your inner self. It amazed me.
She feels that we all have the access to this intuitive power simply by starting to listen to the messages the Subconscious Mind is telling us. She has exercises showing how to pay attention to what you are being told and then acting upon it.
I enjoyed this book immensely, not to mention the great discussions Dave and I had following each of the chapters.
I told Dave I was wondering if all of this Higher Power stuff wasn't just hocus pocus. He doesn't seem to think so, and I'll give it a chance.
We all hold many fears, this is a book I would suggest to those of you feeling fearful.
On a personal note: yet another referendum failed for the Big Lake School District. We have to cut $2 million from our budget in one year. We cut $2 million over the past 4 years and have felt the effects in a huge way. I can't imagine what a $2 million cut in one year is going to look like. It will effect me in one way or another..either cut hours or my position could be cut entirely. I am not worrying about it, there is nothing I can do. I don't feel fearful over losing my job, but I do wonder what I would like to do? If I find myself looking for a new job-what will it be? I don't know if I want to commute downtown again. I loved working for a wonderful manager in Minneapolis, and could see myself going back; but, I find myself asking what do I really want to do? Do I want to do something with activity, something with running, is anything available? Coaching? Writing? I am not sure. This is one of my fears: not following my dream. Not being true to myself. Could I turn my passion into a career? I would LOVE to coach beginning marathoners.. beginning ultra runners..I would like to write a book. That is what I am currently asking myself now, as well as WHAT DO I WANT TO BE WHEN I GROW UP??
I'll just Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!